Turns out, I was missing a couple of key elements in my life. Self-love and self-care. Remember that at the beginning of any flight, the flight attendants give safety instructions, one thing they always say is: “put your own oxygen mask on first, before you help your child or others.” It is the same with self-care. Investing in and loving yourself is like putting on your own oxygen mask on first. This is something you have to do; only when you can breathe easily can you help those around you.